Chief Obafemi Olopade is one of Nigeria’s most distinguished personalities. A Structural Engineer by training, Olopade runs a chain of business ventures. Notable among some of his close friends are former President Olusegun Obasanjo, Asiwaju Alex Duduyemi, Chief John West and many others.
Ageless, debonair and quick on his feet, Chief Jonathan Adio Obafemi Olopade celebrated his 90th birthday on the 31st of July and this weekend he was on the cover of ThisDay Style magazine.
According to the magazine, “When meeting Obafemi Olopade, one is struck by the air of youth, which belies his actual age” and “men like him are not made anymore”.
Chief Olopade father of 15 is set to launch a book soon to celebrate life at 90. The book is titled “Yoruba for Every Season and Citizen”.
I cannot emphasise how much ladies wished men knew these things, even the best of men fail to understand some of ladies’ basic needs. These things are no big deal but life would be so much better if men knew them.
1. Don’t pretend to listen
Don’t just pretend to listen to what we have to say. We talk to you because we trust you and sometimes we just need moral and emotional support. It’s very disappointing when we are fretting about something and you have nothing to say except, ‘huh’ indulge in the conversation it makes us feel loved and special.
2. Pamper us when we are sick
Please make us feel cared for when we are sick. We know that you are very concerned when you say, ‘take your medicines and go to sleep, I’ll handle everything else’ but that’s just not enough, we need your attention. Treat us like a little baby when we not well.
3. Hear her out
We understand that you guys have though job and it’s hard to be all charged up when you get home after a tiring day. The thing is we have been working all day long too and we love you and there is no one in the world we would rather talk too. Us, women, need to vent out so please, listen to what we have to say. It would mean so much to us.
4. Help out in the house
Yes we know you have a job but we get tired of going through the same routine over and over again. Help us out around the house once a week; on weekends we really need a break!
5. Run errands
Help us run errands, don’t be selfish. Throw the trash out, pick up groceries, drop the children to school the list goes on. Just help us out a bit, trust me if you had to manage a job and a house you would appreciate us a whole lot more!
6. Share the load
Let us help you out, morally, financially and emotionally. Let us support you, there is no shame in asking your partner for help when you need it.
7. Don’t be a baby
You know you will always be our baby, but don’t be a baby all the time. Most of the time, we need aman. A fully functional grown man, who can take his own decisions and has the strength to take initiative, you know we will always be there to spoil you
8. Surprise us
Some times, just some times, do something amazing and surprise us. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, it about the thought you put into bring a smile on our face.
9. Don’t lie
Sh*t on the bed sheet and tell us, we can live with that, but don’t lie. Not only is it extremely immoral to tell lies. It makes us question the status of our relationship with you. It makes us feel guilty fro not giving you enough space and damages the bond of trust we share with you, so don’t just don’t lie.
10. Don’t think we are stupid
We are not stupid, just because we are women things are no different. Honestly, we deal with much more than you guys do. So respect us and our decisions.
11. Don’t sleep on the living room couch
You are heavy and it’s hard to wake you up once you are asleep and impossible to physically move you. We need our teddy bear to hug us and make us feel protected every night. It’s the best feeling in the world.
12. Leave space on the bed
Leave some space in the bed for us, we exist too you know. Sometimes we seriously consider pushing you off the bed.
Drinking the tea may relieve anxiety while reducing nausea and chronic pain. Unlike smoking marijuana, the tea is not inhaled through the lungs and thus does not contain the risk of developing long-term lung problems. The cannabis plant has thin, jagged leaves that branch into five to seven fingers.
If you’ve never heard the word ‘Skoochies‘ and you claim to be ‘street’, then your street credentials needs to be re-evaluated and this story is NOT for you!
In simple terms, ‘Skoochies’ is a ‘street cocktail’ made from cannabis/weed leaves. The leaves are boiled, the shaft is sieved and the water (tea) is mixed with different solvents like alcohol, milk, sugary drinks and more.
Its popularity on the streets and among Nigerian celebrities is rapidly growing and the fact that it has health benefits as well as its sexual enhancement prowess has made it an increasing replacement for other street drinks likealomo, ogidiga, jedi-drinks and others that reigned supreme in time past.
Like smoking marijuana, drinking the tea may relieve anxiety while reducing nausea and chronic pain. Unlike smoking marijuana, the tea is not inhaled through the lungs and thus does not contain the risk of developing long-term lung problems, like emphysema. Surprisingly, cannabis tea may help treat autoimmune diseases‘.
The origin of the word ‘marijuana’ dates back to the late 19th century. It is an Americanism for the Mexican Spanish marihuana or mariguana, which is associated with the personal name María Juana. Another name for marijuana is Mary Jane, the English version of María Juana.
In Nigeria, it has became a popular drink atFela’s Shrine, but recently its popularity has spread like wild fire on the street.
According to a recent report by Life out of Alcohol and Drugs Ghana (LOAD Ghana) in collaboration with Basic Needs Ghana, ‘14.3% of Nigeria’s population of about 130 million people smoke weed in public view and boys as young as 12 years peddle it at open markets’.
So when next you see your favourite celeb holding that ‘RED’ cup, it could be skoochies! And guess what, it’s like drinking tea; you won’t smell the awful stench of alcohol.
And for the veterans correcting the spelling of ‘Skoochies’, we know it has alot of spellings (Skuchiez, Skushes, Skushies… and more) but until the word is adopted into the Oxford Dictionary, we are sticking with ‘Skoochies’.
A lot of disorders arise from not eating right and a good number of them don’t even manifest until they have caused a lot of damages. Eating right, not only help you stay healthy, it helps you psychologically and financially. Financially? Yes, as you are about to find out in this article. How Do You Know You Are Eating Right?
Observe and listen to the subtle messages sent to you by your body. Whether our body is healthy or not, we get messages from our body but often times, we don’t listen. Likewise, if we are eating right or not eating right, we get messages from our body too.
Here are five key signs to know you are eating right;
1. On Top Of Your Game All Day
Eating right gives you energy and makes you stay mentally active all-day. This is a fact and I have found this to be true by observing myself and other people in my workplace too. It is one of the reasons you should not miss your breakfast ever again. You have enough energy throughout the day if your diet is fulfilling your needs and work requirements. Too much coffee consumption too can be implicated in this as you can have a crash or breakdown of energy towards the middle of or later on the day.
2. You Sleep Well At Night
A lot of things, including diet can keep you awake or make you have sleeps in which you wake up frequently. When you have these kind of nights, you wake up tired in the morning. When you don’t sleep well at night, a lot of things can cause this but a good way to start checking is your diet. What kind of food do you eat in the day and towards bedtime? What is the space between the time you eat and time you go to bed? These are good questions to ask?
3. You Don’t Have Mood Swings
Yes, when you have even mood, then you can be sure you are eating right. Although, mood swings can be caused by other factors, when you have even mood, you are eating right. Having said this, when you have mood swings or anxiety and have eliminated other possibilities, or starting to check what the possibilities are, you may want to check your diet. Too much of foods such as sugar, alcohol, caffeinated coffee, etc., can cause mood swings and anxiety.
4. Always Well Hydrated
Dehydration usually results from drinking too little water in a day, thereby causing thirst, dry lips, and dry skin. Other factors that could result in dehydration include drinking too much caffeine and alcohol. Totally avoiding them is what I usually advise.
5 . You go to the toilet everyday
Not literally as stated in the title because people go to the toilet to smoke sometimes. Going to the toilet here means you actually go to the toilet to do what the toilet is designed for.
This is avery good sign you are eating right and including the right amount of fibers in your diet, they turn your bowel often and make you go do the dump.
I mentioned at the beginning of this article that eating right saves you money and yes, it is true. You are not eating right if you eat at restaurants and eateries. These foods have been implicated in a lot of conditions and food poisoning cases. Cooking at home will not only give you quality and safe food but also saves you more money.
There are some other factors or signs that you can actually look out for in order to know if you are eating right, these are just some of the ones you can easily notice.
Would you like to know the same fitness secrets that smart women like actress Omotola Jalade use to get in shape have a flatter belly even after giving birth to 4 children?
Many overweight people has sorted out for different type of diet in order to lose weight. The best way to achieve a flat stomach or weight loss is through a healthy, low-calorie diet and plenty of exercise. But if you want to speed the process along, try incorporating some of these foods into your meals. Not only do they relieve water retention, but they also help to stave off cravings, boost your metabolism and keep you feeling fuller for longer.
An apple a day can keep weight gain at bay. People who chomped an apple before a pasta meal ate fewer calories overall than those who had a different snack. Plus, the antioxidants in apples may help prevent metabolic syndrome, a condition marked by excess belly fat
Each tiny bean is packed with nutrients, including protein and fibre, while remaining low in calories and full of slow-release energy. This means you’ll feel fuller, while the high protein content will help firm up your muscles and keep you toned
Dig in to eggs, yolks and all: They won’t harm your heart, but they can help you trim inches. Omelets and scrambles are obvious choices.
All oats are healthful, but the steel-cut and rolled varieties (which are minimally processed) have up to 5 grams of fiber per serving, making them the most filling choice. Instant oats contain 3 to 4 grams per serving.
Peanuts get a bad rep in the diet world, but eating a small handful as a snack in between meals could stop you from overeating, and give you the protein you need to carve a lean, flat stomach. Peanuts are rich in omega 3 fatty acids and fibre, as well as skin-conditioning vitamin E.
It might make your breath smell a bit, but each clove of garlic is packed not just with toxin-battling antioxidants, but also a naturally occurring chemical called allicin. When digested, allicin reacts with the blood to create a product capable of killing off many harmful bacteria and viruses that your body may be harbouring – including in the digestive tract. A healthy gut it essential for achieve a flatter tummy – try adding a few raw cloves to your food just before serving to get the most out of it.
The spicy root has been used for centuries as a digestive aid, because it possesses anti-inflammatory, anti-nausea and antioxidant properties. It also contains an enzyme called zingibain, which helps digest proteins.
8. Brown Rice
If you’re looking to flatten and tone your belly, you should aim to eat a complex carbohydrate that is rich in muscle-strengthening protein and vitamins, like brown rice. It’s better than white rice, because it contains a rich supply of energizing B vitamins, which could help you burn calories faster.
A well-known detoxifier, it’s a great natural weapon against water retention and could help you achieve a flatter stomach.
Eating plenty of oily fish is a good idea if you want to tone up your tummy, because it is high in protein and low in ‘bad’ or saturated animal fats. It is also a rich source of omega 3 and 6 fatty acids, which are crucial to proper brain function.
There you have it, 10 Foods that Helps You to Lose Weight. Incorporate them into your everyday meal and you will see changes. You will fed your body goals this summer.
Sex is a topic that gets everyone’s attention but what we rarely discuss is what leads to it. Some ladies are so keen on kissing till your lips fall off. While bumping noses and crashing teeth can be a major problem for kissers, there is much more than meets the eye.
Wendy Hill, Dean of the faculty and a professor of neuroscience at Lafayette College, found that couples who kissed for 15 minutes while listening to music experienced major chemical changes. Their levels of oxytocin (responsible for bonding) and cortisol (associated with stress) changed dramatically.
Kissing can dramatically improve your stress levels and health, not to mention help you snag the love of your life.
Here are five ways you can transform your kissing skills:
1. Take it Slow
Sloppy, uncoordinated kisses are normally pretty awful. You’ll get a much better response if you allow yourself to become sensual. Start by gently kissing the object of your affection on the lips without engaging your tongue. Do this a handful of times to create anticipation and a longing for more. When things heat up, let a bit of tongue slip into their mouth. Gently rub their tongue with yours. You can also kiss around the mouth — the top lip, then the bottom lip, and see where that leads.
2. Get Vocal & Physical
Being vocal can definitely steam up a kiss. Letting out even a tiny moan while your mouths are touching can really increase the eroticism. Don’t forget your hands too, they can make the difference between an average kiss and an awesome kiss. Slowly stroke your partner’s body–their low back, face, hair, and shoulders. Whatever feels good for you.
3. Mix It Up
When it comes to kissing, like anything, it’s best to keep things inventive. Whether it’s chewing on the lower lip, sucking their top lip, tickling ears or earlobes, or leaving a trail of soft kisses along your partner’s neck, taking the kisses for a little kiss-trip beyond the mouth is a thing of delight and passionate exploration.
4. Be Confident
A confident kisser always delivers the best results. Be prepared with fresh breath, and the belief that you can transform the moment from so so to super-sensual. If in doubt, remember, if they’re kissing you it’s because they’re attracted to you, so embrace it. Listen to your partner’s subtle cues and know that pleasing them is the best confidence builder you can get.
Greatest part of marriage is child bearing which we know already. Like the bible says ” The children are the heritage of the Lord “. I am sure you didn’t believe I read my bible ? Shame on you people. I am a staunch member of T.R.E.M. Akoka, a church owned by Bishop. Mike Okonkwo
That aside, After child bearing ladies always beat themselves up for the change of shape, loss of beauty, extra appetite but here are some simple ways to keep you on track.
Pregnancy changes a woman in many ways. Aside from experiencing the emotional challenges of growing a tiny person in her womb for 9 months, she will undergo physical changes in her body that may last for a while,sometimes forever. And while she sees these as but small sacrifices of motherhood, she will do anything to get her body back in shape. What can a woman do to lose weight after pregnancy?
1. Do Post-Natal Exercise
Want to get back your toned abs and perfect waist? A good post-natal exercise can help you return to your pre-pregnancy body weight faster. Post-natal exercises are usually simple exercises such as walking, water aerobics ( after your bleeding has stopped ) and light weight programs. It will also reduce back pain, leg cramps, constipation and improve your sleep. Exercise is also a good activity to improve your mood and cope with the various challenges of motherhood.
2. Give Your Body Time to Recuperate
Is it realistic or healthy to slim down right after pregnancy? The answer a big NO. Experts are strictly against diet programs or heavy exercise during post-pregnancy. Remember that your body is still in healing stage and you don’t want to rush things. You should give your body enough time to recuperate and restore normal processes. The healing stage can take up to 12 weeks or more, during this stage it’s important to avoid cutting calories and going into heavy exercises to lose weight.
3. Eat Right during Pregnancy
Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you can pig out for 9 months. Don’t take the phrase ‘eating for two’ literally. According to experts, pregnant women should gain just about 15 to 35 pounds (or 6 to 15 kilograms) in the course of her pregnancy. She should also avoid too much fatty foods and sweets and get healthy alternatives for her cravings like fruits and vegetables.
Studies have found that mothers who eat too much during pregnancy increase the risk of low IQ, eating disorders and psychosis in children. It’s okay to indulge in your cravings but it’s better to exercise caution and listen to your body and know when it’s too much.
Breastfeeding helps you shed some extra pounds that you may have gained during pregnancy. Babies who have been breastfed also tend to be healthier than those who haven’t. Since breastfeeding can make you lose about 300-500 calories a day, it’s quite important to eat extra calories during your breastfeeding period to maintain an appropriate and healthy diet.
However, just because you are breastfeeding doesn’t mean you can eat whatever you want. The best way to keep your weight in control is to have proper diet every day.
5. Get Plenty of Sleep
Babies have strange sleep cycles which make them oblivious to differences between day and night. They will doze off at odd times and become fully awake at the wee hours of the night. Sometimes they will sleep in short intervals ranging from 30 minutes to 4 hours. Because of this, a new mom may find it hard to rest. Not having proper sleep can upset your metabolism, making it twice harder to lose weight.
If you don’t have someone to take turns with you caring for the baby while you sleep, you can sleep at the same time your baby is sleeping. Even if your baby wakes up for short intervals, idle resting is a good way to keep your energy high throughout the day.
While mommy makeovers or post-pregnancy surgeries can promise a much faster shaping of your body, a good post-natal exercise is a lot safer.
As it’s summer and a lot of people are getting “beach ready” these days, here are a few words of encouragement for those that try hard but simply can’t seem to lose weight (as fast as they may like).
1. Some bodies simply lose weight slower
If you do not see results in the first few weeks, it doesn’t mean you are not losing weight. That was the lesson I learned, and even though annoying, there is nothing you can do except keep going.
2. Starting the day with a brief burst is a wonderful thing
Starting the day with a short energetic moment — climbing the stairs, that walk I just mentioned, or any other brief outing — is wonderful. It clears your mind, gets you going, and kickstarts your digestive system.
3. There are other benefits aside from weight loss
Even if you do not lose weight, there is always a benefit: you get fit. Daily exercise keeps you in great condition and you will feel healthier.
4. You can keep it fun
The worst thing you can do is choose something you don’t like simply because you think it’ll bring fast results. It won’t. You’ll do it for a week or two then give up. Choose something that works for you and that you can stick with.
5. Even walking is beneficial
Walking is key with slow burners. A short walk a day makes you happy and keeps your digestive system working.
6. You aren’t gaining weight
As long as you exercise, you are not gaining weight, which is a result in itself.
7. Variation is key
Don’t do the same exercises day in and day out. Your body will adapt to these exercises and will burn calories slower.
8. More is not always more
When you lose weight slowly, it is tempting to add more and more exercise in the hopes of losing weight faster. It does not work, it burns you out, and you’ll lose motivation. Think up a double exercise plan (preferably with the help of an expert) and stick to it.
9. You can check in with experts
If you feel you really should be losing more weight than you are, check with an expert to see if they can help you. Maybe you have been doing the wrong exercises – an expert can help you find what’s right for you.
10. Taking a day off is a good thing
Training non-stop all day every day is not good for your health, and could even lead to breaking down muscles instead of growing them. It is also mentally unhealthy to never have a day off. Your brain will enter a “there is no end to this” mode and you will start resenting exercise. Overtraining is harmful for the mind as well as the body. Take some time to rest and recover.
Like my friend once said ” I stuck to it, trained every day, and – despite not seeing results as quick as I hoped — found that one day my trousers kept sliding down. Then I found all my clothes were wider. Without even noticing, I had gone down several sizes. I stuck to it and eventually got results.”Patience, variation, finding the right exercises, and taking enough rest is what brings the best results for everyone. Remember: Exercising is about getting fit and healthy. As long as you achieve that, the rest will take care of itself.
I know I said 10 but couldn’t help but chip in the last one because that’s the most beautiful part of exercising. There will always be results.