Sex is a topic that gets everyone’s attention but what we rarely discuss is what leads to it. Some ladies are so keen on kissing till your lips fall off. While bumping noses and crashing teeth can be a major problem for kissers, there is much more than meets the eye.
Wendy Hill, Dean of the faculty and a professor of neuroscience at Lafayette College, found that couples who kissed for 15 minutes while listening to music experienced major chemical changes. Their levels of oxytocin (responsible for bonding) and cortisol (associated with stress) changed dramatically.
Kissing can dramatically improve your stress levels and health, not to mention help you snag the love of your life.
Here are five ways you can transform your kissing skills:
1. Take it Slow
Sloppy, uncoordinated kisses are normally pretty awful. You’ll get a much better response if you allow yourself to become sensual. Start by gently kissing the object of your affection on the lips without engaging your tongue. Do this a handful of times to create anticipation and a longing for more. When things heat up, let a bit of tongue slip into their mouth. Gently rub their tongue with yours. You can also kiss around the mouth — the top lip, then the bottom lip, and see where that leads.
2. Get Vocal & Physical
Being vocal can definitely steam up a kiss. Letting out even a tiny moan while your mouths are touching can really increase the eroticism. Don’t forget your hands too, they can make the difference between an average kiss and an awesome kiss. Slowly stroke your partner’s body–their low back, face, hair, and shoulders. Whatever feels good for you.
3. Mix It Up
When it comes to kissing, like anything, it’s best to keep things inventive. Whether it’s chewing on the lower lip, sucking their top lip, tickling ears or earlobes, or leaving a trail of soft kisses along your partner’s neck, taking the kisses for a little kiss-trip beyond the mouth is a thing of delight and passionate exploration.
4. Be Confident
A confident kisser always delivers the best results. Be prepared with fresh breath, and the belief that you can transform the moment from so so to super-sensual. If in doubt, remember, if they’re kissing you it’s because they’re attracted to you, so embrace it. Listen to your partner’s subtle cues and know that pleasing them is the best confidence builder you can get.