” Hi, I hate long distance relationship because its just you dating your device.”
We get it, long-distance relationship are tough. However, while the situation may not be ideal, it really can be as positive or negative an experience as you make it. If you choose today to be intentional about making this a positive experience, you will be amazed at how the closeness between you and your spouse grows.
Here are some suggestions that will go a long way.
1. Be romantic
Write handwritten love notes, smother them in kisses and cologne, and send them via snail mail (super romantic). Or send your spouse your favorite perfume or cologne so they can spray it on their pillow at night and think of you. Say “I love you,” “You are gorgeous,” and other compliments of that sort –OFTEN
2. Practice healthy communication
If ever there was a time to be a great communicator, it’s now. LISTEN! Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. This becomes even more important when your connection comes over the phone or internet. Come up with little phrases, code names, or other words that are significant between the two of you – those little things build friendship and are a great way to quickly communicate a special message, and will help strengthen your love for each other.
3. Find reasons to celebrate
Celebrate hump days, milestones, and other small and big achievements. Celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and holidays via Skype or other means. Set goals together and then motivate and celebrate each other’s progress daily.
4. Be loyal
Have an object/action that can remind you of your spouse (especially when you feel weak or vulnerable). This could be a trinket they gave you, your wedding ring, a picture, or just something you do (like tapping your heart with your fore-finger).
5. Send something thoughtful
Send gifts, pictures, care packages, and little things your spouse would love. Make homemade cards, advent calendars, memes, etc.
6. Try not to fight
Fighting long distance is the worst because the silent treatment can last forever. If you do fight, be quick to forgive, apologize, and say you’re sorry. Find humor in small things – share anything funny that happened in your day, or that you came across online.
7. Keep pictures of your spouse close by
Think of your spouse often – when your thoughts wander, let them wander to your spouse