If your spouse uses any of the following, it could be a sign there are problems in your relationship. Please remember, none of these behaviors imply the relationship is broken.
If you both have even the smallest bit of love and determination to fix things, there is hope.
1. “You’re overreacting”
In the right context, this harmless sentence indicates he has lost empathy for you. When you express that you’re tired, or that you’ve had a long day, how does he react?
If he no longer listens, or he tells you you’re overreacting, it’s time to sit down and talk about it. Showing gratitude – and empathy when needed — for what each of you do for the other and for your children is essential for a unified marriage.
2. “I’m not interested”
You must be the most important thing in the life of your husband, and vice versa.
If he says he is no longer interested in something that was once important to you both, even if the phrase is just part of a discussion you are having, it needs addressing.
3. “I don’t want to talk about it”
Physical affection and communicating feelings between married couples are the two factors that differentiate us from other species. We are rational beings who think and then act.
When your husband won’t communicate and avoids talking about conflicts within your marriage, it paralyzes growth in your relationship.
Find the right time, and with gentleness and patience create a healthy environment where you can both talk.
4. “I don’t have to tell you where I was”
You should not be the jailer of your husband, and he shouldn’t be yours; but phrases like this imply secrecy or lack of respect.
Even when you’re married, you need independence. You need to be able to breathe freely; but telling your wife where you were is not losing that freedom.
In such situations it is important to talk to your husband as many times as it takes. This helps you both continue to rely on each other
5. “I wish I’d never met you”
This is probably the most devastating phrase anyone can hear. Feeling guilty for any bad thing that has happened to him since the day he met you is a burden no one likes to carry.
This phrase is usually used in a heated conversation, but it should never be taken lightly. Most people who use this phrase don’t really believe you are to blame for everything bad in their life; they just use it to hurt you.
The most important thing in a marriage is to establish the rule that whatever happens, and even if love ends, you will always show respect — respect for your spouse and respect for yourself..
Folasade Olatunji, an award winning Radio/Television Presenter, Red Carpet Host, Model and Blogger who started her career with Tv3 Nigeria, operated by Disc Communication Company as a Presnter in 2006, is a Native of Ogun State, born and breed in Lagos, studied Business Administration at the Fedral Polytecnic Ilaro and recieved Diploma in Presentation at the Pencil Film Institute (PEFTI).
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