1. Living together is the ultimate test.
Can your relationship survive the less glamorous aspects of cohabitating? Will you have repeated arguments about dishes and dirty laundry? Living together is not full of the stuff you see in rom-coms (it can often seem like The Break Up), and university studies show that believing movies’ portrayal of ideal relationships can increase your chance for dissatisfaction in your relationships. Sorry, Bella fans, Edward Cullen is not real. Your love will really be tested. If you can love each other even after realizing that it’s not always going to be fun, chances are, you will be in better shape for your marriage.
2. Couples who live together learn about each other and start to form an identity working as a team. They can learn (or not) how to balance their relationship, careers and even finances together. Through time, the other person’s priorities and values will become clear, and couples can see if these really align before putting marriage on the table.
3. When you get into a fight with a significant other who you live with, you can’t just walk away and play the “who- calls-first-to-apologize” game. You go home to the same bed, and getting a hotel room or crashing at a friend’s house after every fight just isn’t viable 100% of the time. This is where the communication and people skills you learned in college and/or while growing up can really make a difference. Will you talk it out, or will you just go to bed angry? If you two just can’t get along, it’s better to learn this now.
4. Your sex life and passion will be tested.
Will you find your man attractive even after he leaves the bathroom door open when he’s, um, doing his business? I hate to be the breaker of bad news, but yes, a lot of the mystery is lost if you don’t do anything about it. The lingerie that you ripped off last night in a passionate frenzy will be waiting on the floor the next morning, waiting to be sorted into the delicate laundry pile.
There’s a reason so many articles point to the importance of not getting “too comfortable.” Don’t always wear sweats together, get off the couch every once in awhile, go on dates. If you’re both willing to consciously keep the flame alive, you’re on good footing for a great marriage.
Folasade Olatunji, an award winning Radio/Television Presenter, Red Carpet Host, Model and Blogger who started her career with Tv3 Nigeria, operated by Disc Communication Company as a Presnter in 2006, is a Native of Ogun State, born and breed in Lagos, studied Business Administration at the Fedral Polytecnic Ilaro and recieved Diploma in Presentation at the Pencil Film Institute (PEFTI).
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